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Guy Responds To Relatives Who Shamed His Mom Wearing Red Lipstick

Red lipstick – a thing which can make a bride look “beautiful” but can make an office-goer or a middle-aged woman look supposedly “slutty”. How many times did people have to talk themselves out of wearing this shade of lip colour because of what society thinks? The answer – too many times.

Speaking of which, a guy named Pushpak Sen recently took to social media to share a powerful and a much-needed message. His 54-year-old mother had been slut-shamed by their close relatives for wearing red lipstick at a family gathering. The next day, in response to their hostile behavior, Pushpak wore red lipstick and sent a picture of himself to his relatives writing, “Good morning. Get well soon.”

“My mother, a woman of 54 years, got slut-shamed by some of our nearest relatives for wearing red lipstick at a family get-together. So yesterday, I sent all of them this picture with a ‘Good morning. Get well soon.’ message,” he writes.

Pushpak goes on to add, “What baffled me the most is that some of these relatives have children, who are super ‘woke’ on social media and were present when this ‘gossip’ was happening but didn’t say a word.”

He then takes a stand for everyone who has had to suppress their desires for a toxic society.

“Here I am, a man with a full face of beard and red lipstick. Here I am, standing up for all the mothers, sisters, daughters, non-males and all the womxn who have had to suppress their desires because of the toxicity of an insecure society. Here I am, standing up for all of them and asking my fellow brothers to stand up for the womxn you know, in your own way, when you see your loved ones getting bullied.”
Have a look at his full post here:

My mother, a woman of 54 years, got slutshamed, by some of our nearest relatives, for wearing a red lipstick at a family…

As his post went viral, people online lauded Pushpak for giving a befitting reply to his relatives. Many showered him with messages of support. Have a look:

Change begins at home. If we want to change the way society thinks, we must first stand up against members of our family when they show problematic behavior. Sometimes, that’s the most difficult thing to do. We hope Pushpak inspires many more to do the same!

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5 Reasons Why You Don’t Need A Dating Coach – Smudged Lipstick – Smudged Lipstick

5 Reasons Why You Don’t Need A Dating Coach

Don’t get me wrong, I understand the appeal of paying a dating coach. Hey, I understand the appeal of paying for any type of coach that will help you improve certain aspects of your life. But, having worked in and around the industry for 7 years, I’ve been privy to dealing with some of the best and worst dating coaches the UK has to offer and I wanted to share a realistic look as to why you really don’t need a dating coach.

ONE: Dating is Subjective

Nobody can be a dating “expert”. What makes one date great for somebody, won’t necessarily make it great for somebody else. I always ask not to be quoted as a dating “expert” in the press as I can never really know the full story behind somebody’s dating life. I can give advice, but that’s all it can ever be. There is no secret universal formula that costs thousands of pounds that will instantly make you good at dating. Which brings me to my next point…..

TWO: What the Hell is “Good at Dating”?

What the hell does that even mean? Nobody’s good at dating. They’re just good people!

People who listen.

People who ask questions.

People who are happy to pay for things if need be.

People who are happy to travel a little bit further to meet you halfway.

People who don’t just stare at their phone the whole night.

Isn’t it crazy that these normal everyday considerations need to be thrown into the whole “good at dating” basket. If a dating coach is supposed to make you a better “dater”, you’re probably better off focusing on other things such as……

THREE: Improving Yourself Overall – Not at Dating

If you work hard at improving your skillsets overall, why would you need a dating coach? If I know I need to listen more or consciously not butt-in whilst people are talking – that has nothing do with dating. It’s something that I know I need to work on that will help my conversation skills in general overall, not just at dating. By doing this, you’ll notice a huge positive across various aspects of your life obviously including when you’re out on dates.

FOUR: Who Are They To Know Everything?

Anybody in this day and age can take a course and feel they are ready to give advice on shaping somebody’s life. I watched dating coaches first-hand tell their students one thing and do the complete opposite when it came to their own dating life. I had another one (one of the UK’s TOP dating coaches I might add) and I quote “when people ask me what my credentials are, I just show them my wedding ring”. Yep, my eyes just rolled as well. Especially as they were a lot older and never had to navigate the pitfalls of modern day dating.

My point is that it’s still a business and these people will never be able to 100% relate to what you’re going through. Your story is yours – nobody else’s. So, whilst they may have experience, they don’t have your experience.

FIVE: Keep it Simple

A dating coach will obviously look at things you/they think need to improve on…. That’s what they get paid for. I think sometimes we’re too quick to think things are wrong when in reality we just need to take a step back and try to simplify things, not overcomplicate them by overanalysing every small detail with an “expert”.

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5 Ways Lockdown Can Help You Improve Interacting In Real Life – Smudged Lipstick – Smudged Lipstick

5 Ways Lockdown Can Help You Improve Interacting In Real Life

As crazy as it might sound, lockdown is going to make you better at interacting with people in real life. Stay with me on this one, it is going somewhere……

In a world where people can barely leave the house without checking the weather on their phone, here at Smudged Lipstick our ethos is firmly built on running cool events that improve offline communication skills. Sure, whilst re-watching all 4 series of Veronica Mars (you can skip the movie – it’s crap) might not seem like the  best way to improve the way you communicate with people, there are a lot of other things during lockdown that will.

ONE – COMMON GROUND

You will ALWAYS have some common ground to talk about. EVERYBODY experienced lockdown. Sure, it might not be the most positive of subjects to help break that ice, but you will always have at least 1 thing in common and nobody can ever take that away from you. Just try to be a little more creative than “how’s lockdown treating you?” when striking up a conversation.

TWO – INFORMATION IS EVERYTHING

Unless you’ve literally gone from box-set to box-set for the last few months (lucky for some) you would have found yourself investing that time into learning new stuff. Whether it be playing the harp, taking the perfect food photo or creating a vegetable garden in your flat – you’ll have some great new passions to talk about.

THREE – PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE

Having your freedom limited through no choice of your own will teach you how to be a more patient person if nothing else. Transfer this new found patience to your dating life by not being too worried if somebody hasn’t responded to your message within 3 seconds. Things happen, be patient.

FOUR – FALL IN LOVE….. WITH YOURSELF

Cheesy, I know. But, has there ever been a time in your life where you’ve been forced to spend so much time with yourself? Probably not. Use that time to not get caught up in the day to day and be that person you really are, not some robot that catches the tube everyday doing the same old same old. This will help you be the real you when speaking to somebody new, not some weathered version of yourself. Again, cheesy.

FIVE – SPRINGBOARD

LAUNCH yourself into doing new things. Having your time taken away from you will hopefully make you realise that you’ve been putting a lot of things off or making tedious excuses. By doing the things you want to do, you’ll surround yourself with like-minded people…. And you can never have TOO many of those in your life.

Stay safe.

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